Confessions of a Busyness Addict

I am reminded time and time again in Scripture that God is the Ultimate Initiator, creating opportunities for us to know and experience Him more. We don’t “make things happen” for Him. He makes things happen, and He honors us with the invitation to be a part of HIS perfect plans and to share in HIS story, insights, riches, connections, abundance, and faithful love.   So where does that leave me? I’m Learning to rest more and learning to quit carrying the heavy burden of making…

When You Feel too Overwhelmed to Enjoy the Holidays…

Holiday Season: The approximately 5 weeks between Thanksgiving and New Year’s when our lives are so chaotic, we nearly forget what we are actually celebrating in the first place…   The struggle is real… At Christmas time, we have every intention of acknowledging the birth of Christ and the hope and love we have through Him. However, the holidays can often trigger feelings of stress, loneliness, & depression. This then leads to over-analyzing, over-looking, and over-spending. Instead of reflecting on He who rules the earth with truth and…

5 Keys to Becoming a Safe Place for Others

I love relating to people, studying people, and discovering ways to effectively interact with people. As a former performer and recovering perfectionist, I know what it’s like to feel a need to perform in order to win others’ approval. And I’ve learned that I don’t ever want people to feel that pressure around me! My desire is for others to feel safe to be themselves and free to be who God has called them to be when they are with me. I’m sure most of you feel the same. So how can we carry ourselves in…

Top 5 Well-Intentioned Dating Mistakes… I’m guilty. Are you?

I went on a dating hiatus beginning in January 2017, when I decided to write a book on singleness. I have done a lot of self-reflection and research about single life and relational satisfaction over the past months. It’s given me time to intentionally think about dating, relationships, and what I will do differently. I have no major regrets, but there are always lessons to learn and ways to improve! So, why am I sharing 5 mistakes I’ve made in dating? Because I think many people can relate! I am…

13 Inspiring Quotes about God and Your Purpose in Life

As a writer, I love playing with words, arranging them meticulously to create something beautiful and inspiring. I feel a deep sense of accomplishment when I am able to select exactly the right language to illustrate a deep and meaningful point. There is no greater joy than when a reader tells me that I put words to something they had felt or experienced… but could never quite articulate themselves. Words are powerful! Not only do I love arranging words and sentences of my own, but I…

Single Life= A Meaningful Existence

I’ve heard people voice statements such as these… She is so sweet and so pretty. Why hasn’t she found someone by now?! He is such a nice guy. I can’t believe he’s not married yet! She is so great. We need to help her find a man who agrees! He is such a quality person. All he needs now is to fall in love and get married!   It is as if being a quality person equals finding and having a spouse. As if your…

4 Traits I’m Looking for in a Partner

When I was sixteen, I made a list of traits I hoped to find in the partner of my dreams one day. Nearly a decade later, that list looks a lot different now. It grew up. It learned what really matters. I did not understand the value of the traits below when I was a teenager dreaming about falling in love one day. It took both some positive and painful experiences to mature my standards and to teach me what really matters. No, I don’t believe…

5 Ways to Find Peace & Purpose in Singleness

Many people have told me that they don’t understand how I can be so content or at peace as a single person, who would probably like to be married one day. Truthfully, I have not always nailed this. I have had seasons when my attitude toward my life and my blessings was not one of gratitude. I have wrestled with feelings of what I “ought to have by now”. Over the past months and years, I’ve intentionally strived to find peace, patience, and purpose as…

7 Life Lessons I Learned from My Dad

Over the years, my dad has gone from being my care-taker to being one of my closest friends. I may live several states away from my father, but the lessons he taught me live with me constantly and make me think of him every day. Here are 7 life lessons I learned from my dad that have stuck with me as an adult… 1- Work Hard. My dad is one of the hardest workers I know. And when he’s not at the office, he’s fixing something…

Are You Easily Distracted?

Are you making a discovery, or are you making a distraction? Are you really free-spirited, or merely restless? Is it really wanderlust, or is it discontentment? This past weekend, I decided to go on a spontaneous vacation, a personal writer retreat if you will. I booked a place for the first time through Airbnb- a gorgeous room in a 1930’s mini-mansion. I said a prayer to God- that He would help me focus on writing and other tasks I needed to accomplish, with minimal distractions. The next day,…