PURPOSEFUL SINGLENESS: Taking Initiative

A Story of Purposeful Singleness by Hannah Carnes I had a plan for my life and when I would accomplish each of the “milestones”. You know, graduating college, getting married, having children. I can remember being in high school and whole-heartedly believing I’d be married right out of high school. I was a freshman in college when I pushed that timeline up a little further. But I was certain I would find my husband in college. I’m now twenty-three, a college graduate, and still single. I’d be…

8 Embarrassing Single People Struggles

Singleness keeps you humble. It often pushes you beyond your comfort zone. It can uncover the strength you never thought you had, while also revealing the weakness and needs you never wanted to have. Today I invite you to peek into the mind of a single person to discover- not just the obvious ponderings we have about loneliness or finding the right person- but the random other things we think about in association to the inconveniences we face. Here are 8 relatable, random, embarrassing, hilarious,…

PURPOSEFUL SINGLENESS: Playing and Providing

It was Christmas Eve, and he sat in the hospital call room listening to other medical residents play a round of trivial pursuit. He was missing out on Christmas with his family, again. His parents, adult siblings, nieces, and nephew sat around reading The Night before Christmas and hanging stockings on the wooden mantel at his parents’ house in Alabama. He could envision it, but could not partake. Instead, he was observing Christmas alone at Tampa General Hospital in Florida, where he served long nights…

PURPOSEFUL SINGLENESS: Life beyond Proving My Worth

As a teenager, I had my future figured out… or so I thought. I would be married at age twenty-two. I was counting down the years! My plan was “confirmed” when I enrolled at a small, Christian university in the South, where the unofficial campus slogan rang, “A ring by spring or your money back.” Let’s just say that I never got my ring nor my money back… For the most part, I have always been officially single. I went on dates in college and…

4 Things Singles Should Consider at Church

Dear Fellow Singles, A few weeks ago, I wrote a letter to churches addressing some awkward and uncomfortable experiences we have had within their doors. Some of us know all too well how it feels to walk into a church and feel completely alone in a sea of people. Some of us have felt like we were not fully embraced in light of our single status. Overall, I received a very positive response from those who read that letter. I think some churches are really…

An Open Letter to Churches from A Single Person

Dear Churches, I know that generally your hearts are pure, and you have great intentions. Therefore, I am writing to let you know some things you may or may not realize about the single people in your congregations. I’ll cut right to the chase. Walking into your doors for the first time is generally ten times more nerve-racking and awkward as we venture in on our own. Some of us fear looking awkwardly isolated or feeling more alone than we already feel in light of…

How to Keep it Real & Still Make Changes in 2017

New Year’s Resolutions that just might work for you… A new calendar year is upon us! Therefore, we feel compelled to make some changes in our lives. Some people try making huge, life-changing New Year’s Resolutions. There is nothing particularly wrong with this, but as the stereotype goes, few people actually keep them. Here is my theory on that- It is hard to make major, lasting changes when nothing else in your life is really changing. Change helps facilitate other change! For most of us, January…

When Your Life Isn’t All You Thought It Would Be

My 10-year-old self thought I would be a famous actress or singer… and I am not. My 15-year-old self thought that I would be married by now… and I am not. My 19-year-old self thought that I would be getting my Master’s or PhD right now…and I am not. My 22-year-old self thought that I would have some title or position in ministry by now… and I do not. My 23-year-old self thought that I would feel at home and settled down by now… and I do not. After…

I Can’t be Your Dream Woman

Thoughts on Infatuation and Idealizing Others… Imagine a beautiful nature photo or vacation destination picture you have seen on Instagram or another site…perhaps a beautiful beach with palm trees, clear blue waters, and an empty hammock just waiting for you to take an afternoon nap! This place looks perfect, and you not only “like” the photo, but you desperately wish you could leave work and teleport there immediately! Now let me shake things up a bit. It may be a really great snap shot presented…

An Open Response to the Question: “How Are You Still Single?”

I have received some form of this question a lot lately: How are you still single? Why are you still single? How have you not been snatched up yet?  And What is wrong with the men in your town!? It doesn’t really bother me, and it is usually delivered as a compliment by someone who thinks well of me. I just try to smile through the slight awkwardness. I manage a giggle, probably blush, and then offer some explanation such as, “Well, I guess I…