How to Keep it Real & Still Make Changes in 2017

New Year’s Resolutions that just might work for you… A new calendar year is upon us! Therefore, we feel compelled to make some changes in our lives. Some people try making huge, life-changing New Year’s Resolutions. There is nothing particularly wrong with this, but as the stereotype goes, few people actually keep them. Here is my theory on that- It is hard to make major, lasting changes when nothing else in your life is really changing. Change helps facilitate other change! For most of us, January…

When Your Life Isn’t All You Thought It Would Be

My 10-year-old self thought I would be a famous actress or singer… and I am not. My 15-year-old self thought that I would be married by now… and I am not. My 19-year-old self thought that I would be getting my Master’s or PhD right now…and I am not. My 22-year-old self thought that I would have some title or position in ministry by now… and I do not. My 23-year-old self thought that I would feel at home and settled down by now… and I do not. After…

I Can’t be Your Dream Woman

Thoughts on Infatuation and Idealizing Others… Imagine a beautiful nature photo or vacation destination picture you have seen on Instagram or another site…perhaps a beautiful beach with palm trees, clear blue waters, and an empty hammock just waiting for you to take an afternoon nap! This place looks perfect, and you not only “like” the photo, but you desperately wish you could leave work and teleport there immediately! Now let me shake things up a bit. It may be a really great snap shot presented…

An Open Response to the Question: “How Are You Still Single?”

I have received some form of this question a lot lately: How are you still single? Why are you still single? How have you not been snatched up yet?  And What is wrong with the men in your town!? It doesn’t really bother me, and it is usually delivered as a compliment by someone who thinks well of me. I just try to smile through the slight awkwardness. I manage a giggle, probably blush, and then offer some explanation such as, “Well, I guess I…

Moms of Adult Children: You Still Matter

Some think that “real motherhood” occurs when one’s children are between ages 0 and 18, and then you’re kinda done with the everyday, nitty gritty grind of parenting. As if your only responsibilities consist of spoiling grand-babies and hosting the family during Thanksgiving and Christmas. But let me tell you something- Being a mom to adult “children” is no walk in the park, and it’s definitely still a full-time gig! My mom has 4 children ages 18 to 23. It’s that season where we, as young adults, are all…

Why You Should Document What God Is Doing

Recently, I found great encouragement and healing from the words and the life of a 19-year-old girl. I know, I know, most people do not typically turn to teenagers these days when seeking counsel and comfort on the major issues of life. But hey, God has a reputation for using young people in big ways throughout the Scriptures! So why not?! In recent weeks, I have been struggling with some feelings of discouragement and loneliness, feelings of uncertainty about how to approach God’s calling and…

I’m Not The Good Girl I Thought I Was: Reflections on Humility and Forgiveness

Recently, I found out that a dear friend of mine was a victim of a horrible crime. As I processed and grieved the situation with this sweet woman, I can honestly admit that I felt serious fury and anger toward her perpetrator in the hours and days to come. In the paragraphs below, my dear readers, I give you some “not-so-Christian, nice girl”, “hashtag real life” responses which ran through my mind. There is a Biblical truth which states that we are ALL sinners who…

How to Handle the Burden of Burden-Bearing

Sometimes we experience pressures, disappointments, and suffering in this life, not because of our own particular circumstances, but because we are helping and leading others through their own trials and uncertainties. As members of one family, we are told to “bear one another’s burdens”. At times, it feels like an honor to be entrusted with other’s burdens and struggles. It can feel quite rewarding to walk with people through their valleys and to watch them grow and heal. But sometimes, we take the burdens of…

“How Do I Honor Ungodly Authorities Who Lead God’s People?”

When I think about leaders that God has put in place to rule over His people, church and ministry leaders come to my mind first. If you have been part of an organized gathering of believers for very long, you most likely encountered or heard about some church leaders who rubbed people the wrong way! I don’t know what your experience was. Maybe you were belittled or verbally put down by a pastor or elder. Maybe you were excluded from a committee by some control-freaks…

When Satan Throws Shade at the Light

God has given me the opportunity to use my love of writing to share the good news of Christ with people all around the States! Thanks to the internet, Biblical inspiration and messages of hope can be shared without the barriers of distance, time, or significant costs limiting their accessibility! On July 16th, an article I wrote spread rapidly around the internet! Part of its message addressed the stronghold of rejection in a certain group of people. It took a lot of boldness and vulnerability…